When you join online dating sites, there is a great chance that you’re going to find a profile of a woman that you like. You’ll send her a message. She’ll reply. Then your online relationship will take its course.

But online dating wasn’t created to limit that relationship to the cyberworld. It offers you a chance to meet them face to face as well so you should take advantage of that. When conversing through e-mails, be sure to grab the opportunity to ask her for her number.

If you have a good relationship online then chances are, she won’t hesitate to give you her number. But that doesn’t mean that you could relax. To be able to meet in person, you still have one more challenge to overcome. The inevitable phone call.

Talking to a woman over the phone to set up a date could be a little tricky. You see when we meet someone online, we begin to construct mental images to imagine what they are like. Hearing their voices is a different thing. Sometimes they mesh with what we imagine and sometime they don’t.

So here are some quick tips to learn how to talk to an online friend when you’re setting up a date with her.

1. Make a list of topics that you could talk about before trying to call her. If you’ve been corresponding for quite some time then it’s probably easier. If not, try reviewing her profile for some points of interest. She’ll probably have some likes and dislikes posted on her ad so find out what they are.

Then list them down on your head or even on a piece of paper (it’s not like she’s gonna see you consulting the list you know…). Try getting her with small talk about them and then expand on that. Ask open ended questions so there’ll be room for her to explain. Avoid asking yes or no questions because it’s going to turn into a one-word-per-reply conversation.

2. Never ask her if she has other online partners. You still haven’t met this and you’re already infringing her sense of space! Online dating gives you access to many dating communities so don’t expect that her online relationship is severely limited to you alone. You probably have online relationships with other women so don’t try to deny her that option. Besides it shows complete lack of respect to the girl if you ask her about that.

You can easily tell if you’ve offended a woman if her replies become shorter and shorter. Either that or she wasn’t really interested to begin with. If she’s the one who ends the call and offers to call you back then chances are you’ll never hear from her again. So be mindful of that happening.

3. Also be careful when giving out compliments. Compliments can come off as insults when not done in the proper context. Telling her she has beautiful eyes based on her profile picture will seem a little shallow for example. If you’ve already met her in person on the other hand then it is more appropriate, perhaps even more romantic. Try saving those compliments to when you actually see her face to face. So don’t try to suck up so much when calling her. In short, don’t try to make her like you at once. You’ll have a whole first date for that.