After an exciting date, anything can happen. But of course there are some scenarios that you would prefer to happen over others if you know what I mean. You don’t? I mean having sex with her damn it!

Suggesting to have sex with someone after a date is a really really hard thing to do. It’s not like you could come out and say “Hey I had a great time with you and I’m sure you did too, wanna bang?” If you do, then you’ll probably feel the hardness of her hand as it makes a pretty deep impression on the side of your face. So keep that mouth shut for that sentence ok?

One thing that you have to realize is that after all the seduction and chemistry and sparks (assuming you handled all of these during the date) are played during the date, she’s going to want to have sex too. You may think that women don’t think like that but really they do. It’s just that they have to overcome a lot of social barriers to be able to express that desire.

If you say that you want to have sex after a date, people probably won’t think you’re out of ordinary. Because societal standards state that most men do want sex. We are the ones known to actively seek it. But for women, there are many things to consider. Will you think she’s easy? Will everyone think she’s a slut? What would her parents say if they knew that she wanted sex too? I mean if you start thinking like this, well your father will probably give you a pat on the back or something… so yeah men don’t really think about this stuff.

So what you have to do is to make her comfortable enough in your presence or in this case, at your place. So the need will just present itself. You wouldn’t have to suggest wanting to have sex, the actual moment will do it for you.

When you arrive back at your place, the first thing that you have to do is to set the mood. Don’t take her home to a place that’s lighted with candles and humming with love songs though. It may be sweet and romantic when you’ve had a long relationship (actually it very much is but that’s another story altogether) but after a first date, that’s just plain psychotic. You don’t want to be loud about wanting to do it with her. She wants to have it with you. And you definitely want to do it with her. But she doesn’t want you to say it. And even if you don’t say the words, a room filled with candles scream exactly that!

What I found really helpful when inviting a girl over at my place is to forget or at least place the thought of banging her in the back recesses of my mind. As if I have no ulterior motive than just wanting to hang out. Forget about being horny for a moment (even if it is straining your pants and is driving you insane!) and redirect your efforts into making her feel secure and comfortable in your place. This is necessary because she can’t express herself well, much more sexually, if she doesn’t feel comfortable in the environment. So as the man, it’s your responsibility to make her feel so.

So keep the conversations light and without sexual intention. Okay I don’t mean entirely without. Just give it to her sparingly. Offer to make coffee for her then give her hands the slightest touch when you hand her the cup. Or tell her stories then suggest that you lean in the couch so you’ll both be comfortable and relaxed. Or you could also tell her amusing jokes and funny memories so she’ll settle right in.

In no time, you’ll have her comfortably leaning on your side beside the couch, laughing at your every joke and eager for more of your attention. That’s the time for putting your arms around her and well the rest will follow. Well it should! I mean if I still need to guide you through that then God! you’re helpless man…