Dating can be a pretty hard game to fathom. You never know how to act before you go on a date, while you’re on one and even worse, after the date is over. Acting a certain way after a date is over is very crucial. Sometimes it could erase the whole groundwork that you laid on a great first. Yes, believe it or not, it can. Oh trust me, it can.

So what do women look for you after the date is over? Well this may sound oxymoronic, but women expect you to not always be there when she needs you. Yeah you heard it right. Weird ain’t it?

Actually not so much if you think about it. Okay so let’s digress this logically. We could even use a male perspective. Or a kid’s for that matter. Okay. When you were a kid growing up to a boy and eventually to a man, what were the things that you always aimed for? The ones that you always wanted?

When I was a kid, I always wanted a mountain bike. When I was a teenager, I wanted to have my own sports car. And now, I want a grand house. I’ve wanted a lot of different things but they always have a common thread binding all of them. They all were immediately unavailable. That is the nature of how we want things. The more unavailable it is, the more we want it. If it is something we could easily get our hands on, we begin to take it for granted. It’s unimportant. It’s routine.

So there you have it. If you put two and two together, you’ll see that women will like us more if she can’t immediately and easily get her hands on us. Otherwise she’ll become used to us as well. We’ll be unimportant. We’ll be routine. We don’t want that now do we?

So what do we do? We become highly unavailable of course! Something she can have once in a while, when and only when we feel like it. In short, someone she doesn’t control. Someone who will seem so near yet so far at the same time. Someone she’ll begin to want more and more of.

So how do we do it? Well here comes the tricky part. After a great date, your first tendency is maybe to call her. The moment you get home even. Well don’t. This not only tells her you’re over the head crazy about her, it also says you’re desperate for her attention. You didn’t even give her the opportunity to miss you and want you, you just laid yourself all for her disposal. She’ll get easily tired of you if you do that.

So don’t call. At least not immediately. Wait at least four days before asking her out again. Four days is enough to drive a woman out of her mind, trust me. If you had such a great date, she’ll be wondering why you are not fawning over her right now. She’ll begin questioning her charms, thinking that maybe she isn’t all that and you’re not really that attracted to her. The main thing about this is she’s going to be asking the question WHY. She’ll realize that she hasn’t got you figured out after all. And mystery is something you want on your side my friend.

If she is the one who checks up on you, don’t be so eager to agree. In fact, you should be the one to initiate the date not her. So what you do is to turn her down. But here’s the thing. Give her the impression that you have other things to do (even if you don’t) and you’d rather do them. Like a movie date with your colleagues at work or a go at the hoops with your best buds. Just tell her that you’ll call her and set up meeting for another time.

By this time, she’ll know that contrary to what she might think, your world doesn’t revolve around her. It doesn’t even matter if all you think about is her, what’s important is how she views it. You are now someone who has a life of his own and does not to depend on her.

By the time that you actually ask her out, she’ll be the one desperate for your attention and will be in a hurry to say yes. Mission accomplished my friend. Mission accomplished.