Okay maybe you’re subscribed to the best online dating site out there. But trust me my friend, that isn’t enough to succeed in the dating game. If you don’t know how to work it, then you might not have registered at all.

There are a lot of mistakes that you can make when it comes to online dating. But of course we can’t address them all now can we? So let’s take it a little at a time. Step by step you may say.

When you spot a personal ad that instantly strikes your fancy, the next thing you have to make sure is to let her know that. So how do you do that? By sending her an e-mail of course!

This is where a lot of men get it wrong when it comes to online dating. Mostly the e-mails they send get too many unenthusiastic replies. Or some not at all. Well if you can’t successfully create a connection through sending an e-mail message, then you won’t get very far in the online dating game. As a result, many members just give up after being frustrated so.

Well there are ways to make sure that your attempts at communications will not be ignored and most likely even be reciprocated. You have to be mindful of what you write. Most of the times, women get immediately turned off when reading a wrongfully constructed e-mail. So to avoid the inevitable rejection that comes after it, then heed these tips.

Always make sure that you have read her personal ad. Don’t sent template messages with the blank “insert name here” form. Say something amusing about something she wrote about in her profile. Joke about it so she’ll know you’re a funny guy too, Try using smileys to avoid any confusion with regards to your comment being offending or just plain funny.

Also ask questions about her when writing an e-mail. Avoid asking questions that don’t give her an opportunity to expand on. Women love to talk so instead of asking “what” and “where”, you can try “why” and “how” inquiries.

Another good thing to do is to state in your e-mail why you bothered to send her a message. I mean this in the sense that tell her explicitly what you found so interesting in her personal ad that merits getting to know her further. Say things like “Hi I’m Zell and I noticed that you said you loved to…”

It also doesn’t hurt giving compliments. But make them appropriate and within context. Tell her for example how interesting her profile looked to you and not how beautiful she is. Why? Because her profile is accessible to you but not necessary what she looks like. You may just come of as desperate and seeking for attention by sucking up to her.

Lastly, offer her your number or ask her for a reply. Write it in the last line. I don’t mean pressure her to give you one, just make it sound like you’ll going to be looking forward to whatever reply she may have. Leave your contact details and tell her to call you so there will be more chances to get to know each other.

Well that’s that for e-mails. E-mails shouldn’t be that long. A maximum of four pages maybe. Just make it lively and interesting, not commonplace. It should be light and fun to read too. You’re sending her an e-mal, not a novel.