If you’ve been hurt before (and has vented about it on the internet no less) then you’ll probably join those who think that relationships are a lot more pain than it’s actually worth. The significantly rising divorcees are enough proof of that. Have you already given up on it? I won’t be surprised if you have. A lot of us is still searching, and in vain I might add, for a relationship that you look forward to having forever, and not something that readily dies out. Sure it starts out magical enough, but then it turns to something comparable to a job you don’t want to be in but still go to anyway. No, relationships should involve a loving couple in a home of perfect acceptance and happiness.

Relationships certainly take its toll on personal character and ego. Sometimes the importance of communication becomes ignored. The magic of wishes and dreams are forgotten. What we have to realize is that relationships involve sacrifice and compromise as well as bliss. You’ve got to treat it as if you are one. Agreements must be reached. Stubbornness to yield to each other’s demands will only hurt and dent your fragile relationship. But that is still not guarantee. As with every solution, it must be maintained. You relationship can still fail if you treat everything as a megasolution. The fact is that relationships take painstaking work. Something that most of us fail to get thus getting ourselves often involved with the wrong people who would eventually lead us to messy break ups.

We almost envy the freedom of youth when thinking about the individuality that relationships take away. Because relationships do exactly that. Most of us has already gone through that. You’re so lucky if you haven’t yet. You fall in love then give up so much only to ultimately and eventually lose it all. Why even have them when all they do is leave us broken? The answer is because we want to. Regardless of the pain that it brings us, we still believe that the potential joy is nowhere near enough to compare it to. To find someone who will complement and complete us? To share every fear and anxiety and to enjoy our hopes and dreams with? There’s no feeling like it. And though we hurt inside, we know there is something better. And that my friend, is why relationships exist. To give us something better to hope for.