Reconciliation with an ex is never easy. A lot of factors need to be considered like how long you guys were apart, how far physically and of course how intense or meaningful your previous relationship with each other was.

One note: never ever compromise trust when engaging in a relationship, whether with an ex or not. Trust is the very foundation of a solid relationship and without it, you will encounter lots of problems.

Before getting back with your ex, reflect on how you view relationships. Is it a two-way street or just give give give? It’s up to you. So determine how you look at relationships first.

One example is that if you are the one who actively seeks. If you are, then you may have to work on that. Don’t try to draw your ex in. You may have both been hurt during your break-up so make sure that you enter into it once more on both your terms, not yours alone. Besides, you may be over the fact that you broke up but he or she might not. Don’t assume that your time of recuperation is the same as theirs. If they really want to get back together with you, they would. So stop trying to put deadlines or limits.

Start from the ground up. Look at what went wrong during your last relationship. If you’re just pressured to escape the label of being single, you’ll end up making the same mistakes twice. So be wary of that happening. One method of reworking a relationship with an ex is through courting.

Yes, when I say ground up I mean the very beginning. Give yourselves a refresher course on why you want to be with each other again. Your breakup may be because of some reasons that you encountered along the way but that doesn’t meant that you hated each other from the beginning. To be able to start anew, reorient yourself to how courting and being courted feels like.

Another thing that you should do is undergo a transformation. I don’t mean drastically, all I’m saying is that don’t expect your relationship to work this time around if both of you don’t change at all. Be more flexible and allow for compromises if you’re decided to giving it another shot. If you haven’t, then maybe you shouldn’t get back with your ex just yet.